Are you truly creating a deep connection with others?
Social media is this interesting paradox.
On one hand, we are more “connected” with people than ever before.
We see their pictures and read their posts.
We comment on their content.
However, what is real connection?
Dr. Brene Brown says we cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.
So what does that mean for us and our ability to truly connect?
How can we effectively allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be seen through a short social media post? Or a series of photos?
99% of the time, people don’t allow their true selves to be seen online.
A study by Catalina Toma shows that sharing an event on social media enhances the emotional tone of the event.
This would account for why most people prefer not to share negative events on Facebook.
In the end, it has proven to only intensify the negative emotions.
So if Facebook isn’t keeping us connected, what will connect us to our friends and family?
Here’s the bottom line…
There are a few, powerfully effective ways to authentically connect with others.
1) Be a true giver of love and acceptance to the people in your life.
Start by asking yourself a few questions:
How can I hold a loving space for this person?
What can I do to be more accepting?
How can I truly give them more love and affection?
2) Look for opportunities to be more vulnerable with the people in your life who have earned the right to hear the stories of where you feel or experience shame.
Just talking with these people about your shame can help dissipate it.
Through this shared interaction of love and acceptance, we begin to heal and experience deeper connection.
Who in your life is deserving of your love, acceptance and vulnerability today?
Go out there and show more appreciation and share openly with those you trust. You may just connect deeply with someone.